tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2778453698202925205.post836917323151593543..comments2023-10-07T05:51:14.387-07:00Comments on You Could Have It So Much Better: Help! I like boys! (girls?) (both?!) by RogerBiki Honkohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06731335682679434307noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2778453698202925205.post-61665054754640052782011-10-25T01:06:21.789-07:002011-10-25T01:06:21.789-07:00Hi there Anonymous,
There is nothing more tricky ...Hi there Anonymous,<br /><br />There is nothing more tricky than trying to unravel the secrets of our hearts and minds. Then stir in a nice side dollop of socialization, which muddies the waters even more.<br /><br />Can you only imagine a happily ever after with a husband is because thats what you have grown up seeing, and expecting, and really until very recently the only way to have a "happily ever after"?<br /><br />I think you need to give yourself some time, go on some dates with both guys and girls, and see how you feel. No, you dont have to have intercourse with all of them, but with some hugs and kisses your mind will let you know if your crank is turning and want more, or you really dont care to carry on.<br /><br />Save yourself the grief, your future husband the grief, and for sure any children you bring into the world grief, by getting this settled before saying "i do" to anyone of either gender.<br /><br />If you are lesbian, then dont "settle" for a guy because before long, it wont be a marriage it will be a torture session, for both of you. Be honest with yourself. Be true to who you are. <br /><br />However!! If you are still living at home, and are still in school, be cautious about coming out to them. Run past your memory banks how they seem to talk and feel about lgbt people. if they seem rather open and easy with lgbt's then go ahead and talk to them. but if you think or feel that things could go badly, then keep your mouth shut, and your eyes forward on the prize, of getting the best education possible so as to be independent of them if need be. And really a great many parents do come around later on, but that doesnt help if your parents throw you out of the house before you have a chance to finish school.<br /><br />Be smart, be honest with yourself, you can do this. If you want to talk more, email me, yeah?<br />bikihonko@live.comBiki Honkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06731335682679434307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2778453698202925205.post-39216713630783982772011-10-22T08:09:18.957-07:002011-10-22T08:09:18.957-07:00Im just really confused...I mean I like boys (I gu...Im just really confused...I mean I like boys (I guess?) they can be good looking but i am usually only attracted to women!(lol yes, i am a girl). I mean i can imagine sex with them to be SO great. But on the otherhand i can only imagine my 'happy ever after' with a husband, not a 'Wife' :(<br />I just wanna know NOW!What am i? Thankyou for your post.Your questions helped me alot toooo.<br /><br />B<br />xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2778453698202925205.post-54151117656236945342010-03-31T15:38:25.619-07:002010-03-31T15:38:25.619-07:00I do know people who are closeted homosexuals. A c...I do know people who are closeted homosexuals. A close friend and suprisingly a good number in my year. It will be intresting to see who comes out after school and who stays in.<br />I'm out and notting bad has ever come my way so it makes me wonder why their so scared of coming out.....hmmm.....I suppose circumstances are diffrent for each and every person here on this earth.<br />Maybe I got lucky or maybe i'm wrong in my opinion of these people. I'm not going to look into it much after all you never know what a person is really thinking. I can only hope that if they are gay they are happy and comfortable with who they truly are. The same gose to you Roger.Josephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09373061838545206489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2778453698202925205.post-57686986850166872712010-03-22T22:11:00.719-07:002010-03-22T22:11:00.719-07:00Thank you for this post. It's great reading a...Thank you for this post. It's great reading about your thoughts and what you were going through, as I think a lot of it reflects and resonates with many of us out there (at least, at some point in our lives).<br /><br />Some of us (*cough* myself *cough*) may still be unsure, and it's frustrating trying to sort things out. It can be damn near a wall. Our minds are set up to put people into neat little boxes, but figuring out which box (if any) to go into, can be rather difficult and confusing.<br /><br />May we all find some end and finality to our journeys.Aekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12183623849361560922noreply@blogger.com